So many times in my homeschooling over the years, I’ve gotten into the rut of trying to be good enough, to improve, to be like another homeschooling mom who seemed to have it all together.
You want to know what I learned? It doesn’t matter what the other mom is doing! What matters is that God gave my kids to me, and He gave me exactly what I need to guide them, educate them, and nourish them.
We don’t have to be like the other moms.
I noticed right away in the homeschooling community that I wasn’t like other moms- that I had different ideas about what education could be, and I had a slightly different perspective on some other things as well.
In the process of learning who I was and growing, I found myself fluctuating between crunchy-granola mommyhood to obsessive scheduler, and everything in between. My homeschooling methods were just as varied. Those were my early years. (I like to make the “early years” disclaimer although I admit it wasn’t that long ago!)
Needless to say, I didn’t have it together, and I don’t have it all together today. But I really thought some of the other moms did, so I ended up comparing myself a lot.
I learned soon enough that “comparing yourselves amongst yourselves is not wise.” It really isn’t the best thing to spend your time on: worrying about whether or not your child is on the “right” level of math because another mom’s kid is zipping through the lessons quickly and is already on the next grade level.
We don’t have to be like the other moms, and our kids don’t have to be like other kids. Period.
A cliche, but true. There is not another soul on this earth that can teach and love on your kids the way only you can. If nothing else, that should be the one reason you don’t want to be like the “other homeschooling mom.”
God is molding you.
Do you really think the Lord would give you this job of raising up and teaching your children without a plan to mold you in the process as well? Oh, He’s got a plan alright!
Lots of sifting and molding and re-making will happen in your life as you become pliable to God’s will for you and your family. It’s not always an easy process but the rewards are beautiful.
One day I hope to look back on these early years of home education and realize that only God Himself could have orchestrated something so beautiful for my family- and the fact that He chose to use home education is a reward in and of itself. The fact that He chose to use me and my husband to give my daughters, who will one day become beautiful young women, a healthy academic and spiritual head start in life will be more than I could ever dream of asking for. My reward is seeing God’s purpose fulfilled in their lives.
Meanwhile, He is molding me, shaping me, preparing me- and it doesn’t always feel good.
But He’s sweet and gentle during the molding process and I’m happy He’s making me more like Him every day as I serve my family.
You have what it takes
You have what it takes to homeschool your kids, just the way you choose, and not like other moms. Never fall into the rut of being like others.
It’s your homeschool, your family, your life- and God is ultimately your shepherd, so let Him lead the way.
It’s okay to be different. It’s okay to struggle to find yourself for a while. We’ve all been there, done that, doing that. No mom is perfect even if she appears to be. She has her struggles too.
Rest assure that God’s perfect plan for your kids will be given to you by the Lord Himself. He alone gives you what it takes to guide your children.
I hope this has been a blessing to you, and I pray that you’ll find rest and assurance in His guidance for you and your children as you opt not to compare yourself to other moms.
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